There’s a Christian movie I like called, “Marriage Retreat.” There’s a poignant scene at the end that changed my way of thinking. In it, the husband tells his wife that he knows when he messes up. He doesn’t need her to keep telling him. When she does, it just makes him feel bad about himself!
In 2012, I learned that I am no one’s Holy Spirit, especially my husband’s. I can’t reveal truth to people. I can share truth, but it is only the Holy Spirit that opens peoples’ hearts to receive it. So, I learned to “zip my lips” as Charlyne Steinkamp says. For anyone who knows my-very-opinionated self, this was hard! But you know how God made it easier for me to swallow? He revealed that what God does lasts forever. I can’t do that. What I do just falls apart and becomes a mess even with good intentions. I wanted God to do it. I wanted His changes in my life, in my husband’s life, and in our marriage to last forever! So I learned then, it’s best to give it to Him. Nothing is impossible for Him.
I realized watching that scene from the movie that I didn’t want anyone reminding (or nagging) me about my faults/sins/mistakes. I, too, know when I make them. Why on earth should I do that to another?
1 Peter 3:1-4 (NKJV) Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. Do not let your adornment be merely outward–arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel–rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.