“I will give them an undivided heart and put a new spirit in them; I will remove from them their heart of stone and give them a heart of flesh. Then they will follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws. They will be my people, and I will be their God.” Ezekiel 11:19-20
Before my marriage failed, I was a terrible wife…terrible person really. I didn’t show my husband respect, was very controlling, bossy, and cold-natured. Even though I loved my husband, I didn’t show it well at all.
My husband has always been a kinder, more patient person than I. We would even joke about our different “natures” in the way we would wake up from sleep. My husband would wake up with a smile, a kiss, and a snuggle. I, on the other hand, would wake up with a grimace and a threat if you touched me! JW was the hugger and more physical. I didn’t want to be bothered. After 10 years, he’d had enough of my cold nature and sought warmth elsewhere. And after God opened my eyes to my own sins, I couldn’t blame him.
But here’s the good news: God is so much bigger than our “natures.” The verse above says He changes our hearts of stone to hearts of flesh. God can and does soften us! He puts a new spirit within us! It took the breakdown of my marriage to be softened, but through that God was able to put a new spirit within me. I am no more cold and hard and unloving. After our marriage was restored, when my husband would wake me, I would greet him with a smile and a kiss and a snuggle! We discovered God had changed me to the core. I was no longer grouchy and sour. Instead, I was grateful and appreciative of my husband’s return and all God had done for us. I was amazed. JW was amazed.
It’s been over 7 years and it now takes something to remind me of how I was in the past. It’s hard to remember how our marriage used to be…how we used to be. God can change people. God can change a marriage. Nothing is impossible with Him. Let Him do the same for you. It’s a beautiful thing!!!
This is so beautiful!! Thank you for such an encouraging post!! It’s when a marriage breaks down that the Lord can build up new soft hearts. I’m standing for my marriage & waiting on God’s perfect time to restore. God bless you all.