Whether your spouse has come back home or, wonderfully, never left, you need to make God your spouse! Don’t you want a happy marriage? Don’t you want it to be all that it can and was designed to be? Don’t you want to be satisfied and fulfilled in your marriage?
THEN DON’T LOOK TO YOUR SPOUSE FOR THESE THINGS!!! It will only cause disappointment in you and unnecessary pressure on your spouse. Please realize that your spouse is a sinful, selfish human just as you are and absolutely zero hope can be found in him/her! (You might need to read that again!) Our hope can only be found in One: that’s Jesus!!
Isaiah 54:5 For your Maker is your husband, The LORD of hosts is His name; And your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel; He is called the God of the whole earth.
Our spouses constantly make mistakes, just like we do. But God is perfect and knows everything…especially how to fix stuff. We take our hopes and dreams and desires to Him in prayer and watch Him fulfill them. When our spouses are ugly (I’m a mom of preschoolers and this is the best way to say this!) we don’t retaliate or nag our spouses to change. Instead, we pray for God to change them. Our expectation must be removed from our spouse (they can’t fix themselves any better than we can) and fixed on God, the true source of power and change.
Psalm 62:5 My soul, wait silently for God alone, For my expectation is from Him.
Prior to 2012, I whined to my husband about how he wasn’t romantic enough or that he didn’t seem to know me well enough to get “perfect” gifts. When he didn’t treat me just the way I thought he should, I’d give him the cold shoulder as punishment. I look back at those days in disgust at myself. Why are we so petty? Surprise, surprise our spouses actually CAN’T read our minds. I wanted my husband to treat me like a queen, but I was unwilling to treat him like a king! Why are we so selfish? If you want a better marriage, let God make YOU a better person. Treat your spouse better than yourself and take it ALL to God in prayer. You’ll be amazed at what God can do!!